A few days ago, I happened to realize that whether a person is ethical or not depend heavily on character, personality, perception and attitude. I think these five factors really shaped a person’s inner beauty.

I think whether a person is good, bad, kind, gentle or anything depend on their inner beauty. Like one of a Chinese proverb: “ inner beauty is more beautiful than external beauty ”. This is seriously true because sometimes we tend to judge a person from the impression it created in our mind through their appearance. But actually, once you get to know a person no matter how good their appearance might look, they can always deceive you.

Why do I say that? This is because I have a seriously bad experience that I have never had in my past 20 years of my life. I just regret that we did not realize this soon which causes our relationship to turn out so sour and I am very disappointed with her (a lot of disappointment).

This story is about our project in my RMIT marketing course module – Buyer Behaviour Case Study 4.1. All names have been cap confident and I will be using representative to describe them and evidence was shown at the end. Let me give u background information from third parties and with facts which I will scan and post tomorrow.

This is what happened. We are given a task to work on for our Case Study 4.1, I am suppose to be the leader (as in wrote on the form that teacher gave me) because at that time other subjects have not announced any project or anything about team work during lesson except Buyer Behaviour so since no one willingly to be a leader, I took up the role as a leader.

In the end as more and more project were given, I suddenly realize I am the leader for all the project and I really got a time I could not breath because too much responsibility so I start nagging again to all of them and ask them to take up the role as a leader. In the end, I am the MR leader (since I have arrange like four meeting before I realize the problem), P is the leader for BF, F & W is the leader for OB and C agreed to take up the role as a leader for BB. I thought everything is fine since our BB module do not have to hand in so early since we are the last group to hand in our case study.

So everything when peaceful and normally since I am the kind that do not mind taking extra job and everyone is busy with their work, study and personal life so no one really remind each other about BB module. So in the end, I (again) remind everyone that we have to do BB and that the leader, C should arrange a time for meeting and arrange our task and roles for the project (I think this is what a leader so do). So in the end, I do not know what happened in between and I was told that P has to guide, teach C, remind C on how to be a leader, what to do for meeting, what she need to do before meeting .. Etc

I do not know what you guys feel, but well for me this is what each member is doing for like the past few year since you are secondary school to know what you need to do for a meeting as a leader. Even though you have not become a leader before, I believe everyone observed each other so members will definitely observed how a leader function and based on that judge whether the person is a good, average or bad leader.

So in the end, we have a meeting and during the meeting (everyone was late except P and J) we discuss like me and P is the leader because we keep inputting ideas on how to produce a good and efficient work. By the way, I forget to mention that we have six group members – me (M), mao, C, P, N and J

Conversation during meeting:

C said: M and mao do question one and background
“ : P and N question three and summary of case study 4.1
“ : C and J question two and conclusion of case study 4.1

(Everyone busy writing down their task and role)

(short paused of 5 seconds)

P said: so my part hor, I should do this this this and this right? Anything else?
M said: ya, for the time being like that only lor see how then we change

(Everyone agreed (smile))

(Then we end the meeting and go to lesson)

Everyone was fine with their work, and then problem comes. C and J was supposed to work on question two and from what I know and observed they met up a couple of times to discuss the ideas and then write out their own part. A few days before our meeting, me and mao have done our part and we email to the rest of them and so is everyone (we thought when actually J have not email us yet). In the end, due to certain situation the meeting was postponed and everyone agreed to it as we need more time to do a complete so we only read those email that we have received and see how other members have done for their part, then I was so shocked to see C typing out everything in point form and send it to me. I was like Huh? What is this? Since I am not clear of what C wrote and J her partner was not online, I went to ask P and N and they said they will ask her tomorrow during break time. By the way, P and N done a good job and me and mao do a pretty good one too (but something happened along the way, I will exprain later)

P and N went to ask her about the part she sends us and we are so devastated to hear such comment.

Conversation between P, N, J and C

P said: hey C, yesterday the report you send us the document is what huh? only like that?
C said: yeah, some of my point that I have though about it

(P and N looked confused)

N said: I do not understand what you wrote, then point out some of her doubts
P said to C: This document is you and J do one ar?
C said: no, no this one is MY part for question two

(Everyone were even more confused)

J said: sorry, I have not add my part yet, this one is not the complete set
P asked C & J: you all never discussed ar? Why never give email us a complete set?
C said: no, no, this one is I DO one; this is MY PART, not J part

(Short paused for 3 seconds)

J explained: she will try to do the whole complete document with both their answer and write properly before sending us again.

(Everyone accept her explanations and give them extra time to complete)

(In the meantime, C show us the conclusion she did as usual, without J)

N said: the conclusion cannot write like this, must write what we have learnt

(C said oh, ok ok I will change it and let you see again)

This drama will continue again tomorrow so stay tuned because after discussion, we have a rather long break before we discuss this subject again and it is super late now.

Evidence:

*Disclaimer: all the story are what I heard, see, observed, viewed, read, talk, behaviour which is 98% close to facts and only certain words were not used as the actual incident but the meaning is the same. If anyone, hear a different story, please email me at tinyredbean@gmail.com